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7 Signs You’re With the One You Should Marry
One sign helps you know for sure
You’re dating someone special and you want to know if that person is the one.
You enjoy the time you spend with that person and you have a connection with them. You are also worried that many marriages end in divorce. You want to make sure that the person you choose to marry is the right one. You want your marriage to last.
I was once in your shoes. When I was single, I used to google all the time some version of “How to know if he’s the one?” Sometimes I googled the question when I wasn’t even dating someone. I wanted to prepare for when I was in the right relationship. I received so many different answers.
Now that I have been happily married for 10 years, I want to help you figure out if you are with the right one. I want you to weed out people you enjoy being around now; but they are not someone you should be with long-term. These are the signs that helped me marry the right person. Look for these signs.
Relationship is easy
When my husband and I were dating, we were both struck by how comfortable we were with each other. Although we just met, he was like an old friend. Our relationship was easy.
Our conversations flowed easily. We didn’t struggle to find things to talk about. We easily planned our dates and what we wanted to do together. My husband described our relationship as “natural.” I think that’s a great way to describe it.
I have experienced the opposite. I’ve dated guys where the time spent together was awkward. We struggled to hold a conversation. I didn’t feel comfortable being myself.
With my husband, I liked who I was with him and I liked him just the way he was. If you’re planning on marrying someone, you should be able to see yourself spending the rest of your life with that person if they stay exactly the same. You don’t struggle to have a good relationship.
Regular Communication
During the year that my husband and I dated, we talked almost every day, if not daily. I was sure that he liked me because we talked and saw each other regularly with no big gaps.
