#7 The right person is happy with you the way you are

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When I opened my email on the morning of my 10th wedding anniversary, I saw an email from my husband titled, “Happy Anniversary to the love of my life.”

Then I read through the email about what I meant to my husband. I read the email slowly to soak in every word.

One of my favorite lines was, “To be able to come home to you every day makes me feel like the luckiest man in the world.”

I felt loved, cherished, and like I was exactly where I was supposed to be. It was not easy getting to that…

#2: Focusing too much on being liked

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It’s embarrassing, but I didn’t really start dating until I was in my 20’s. I only started dating after college.

I grew up in a church-going household so dating was out of the question.

In college, I didn’t really date. No one had money to spend on dates and there were way too many options around for a serious relationship to work.

So, when I started dating after college, I made a lot of mistakes. These mistakes could have kept me from meeting my dream guy. Luckily, I made changes and adjusted before I met my husband.

These dating mistakes…

One sign helps you know for sure

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You’re dating someone special and you want to know if that person is the one.

You enjoy the time you spend with that person and you have a connection with them. You are also worried that many marriages end in divorce. You want to make sure that the person you choose to marry is the right one. You want your marriage to last.

I was once in your shoes. When I was single, I used to google all the time some version of “How to know if he’s the one?” Sometimes I googled the question when I wasn’t even dating…

Your partner will appreciate it

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Want a quick way to end your relationship?

Be around your significant other all the time. Don’t give them any me-time. Don’t give them personal space. Whenever you’re home together, stay right next to them.

That’s what happened to me with my ex-boyfriend. He was visiting me one weekend and wanted to be around me the whole time. I lived by myself and was used to having privacy. I didn’t get any privacy with him around. He stayed by my side. All. Day. Long.

Finally, around 8 p.m. that Saturday, I told him that I wanted to watch a television…

Helpful advice from an unexpected source

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My husband’s brother was killed last year.

We were shocked and devastated. I didn’t know how to comfort my husband and said all of the wrong things.

“It’s going to be okay.”

“Time will heal all wounds.”

“He’s in a better place.”

I wanted to make him feel better. I didn’t realize I was making him feel worse. Of course, what he really wanted was for his brother to come back.

There was nothing I could say to make that happened. I could only support him as he dealt with the loss of his brother.

A Better Way to Support

At the same time that…

My husband of 10 years and I successfully did it.

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Once you reach a certain age, you don’t have time for 3 to 5-year relationships before you get married.

Either your biological clock is ticking or your significant other’s biological clock is ticking. Time is of the essence. You need to get to know your partner quickly and not waste a lot of time.

That’s how it was with me and my husband. We got really close in a short amount of time. We were engaged 8 months after we met and we married a year and two days after our first date.

You may think that rushing to marriage…

And what to do about them.

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You probably haven’t realized this yet. You are more lenient on yourself than others are to you.

When you make a mistake or do something wrong, you give yourself the benefit of the doubt.

Others do not look at you as favorably. You make excuses for yourself, while others only see your actions.

If you’re not sure what I mean, here are a few examples:

You leave stuff around the house because you’ll get to it later. Members of your household think you’re messy or being lazy.

You’re focused on making more money for your family and work late hours…

And what love is really like.

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You can’t believe how television and movies portray love.

That love is scripted and meant to entertain you. Drama is added to keep you interested in the story.

If you’re trying to figure out what love is, don’t rely on what you see on the big screen. You could be misguided on love and wasting your time with the wrong person.

You might be miserable, in desperate need of change, and stay because you think love is involved.

Since I’ve been happily married for 10 years, I’m been lucky enough to experience true love. …

Here are the 5 things I learned

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In early May, when I started to see a lot of posts about writers getting a $500 bonus, I had one thought:

Please do it again next month.

You see, one of my stories started going viral in early May. I knew that if there was another bonus, I would definitely get it. The $500 bonus is for the top 1,000 writers on the platform.

My wish came true.

In early June, I started seeing posts again about a $500 bonus. I checked my account, and I got the $500 bonus!

A powerful love story to inspire you

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Do you believe in romantic destiny?

That there is someone out there that is meant for you. Maybe a soulmate? And that one day your paths will cross?

When I was single, I didn’t know what I believed. I didn’t know if I had to make it work with someone close to my ideal man or if I would actually find the right person to marry.

Now that I’m married, I definitely believe in romantic destiny. The circumstance in which we met seemed so kismet, it’s hard to believe that it wasn’t orchestrated by a higher power.

Even though I…

Dee Dee Patterson

Top writer in love and advice. Wife. Working mom of 3. https://deedee-patterson.medium.com/membership

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