One sign helps you know for sure

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You’re dating someone special and you want to know if that person is the one.

You enjoy the time you spend with that person and you have a connection with them. You are also worried that many marriages end in divorce. You want to make sure that the person you choose to marry is the right one. You want your marriage to last.

I was once in your shoes. When I was single, I used to google all the time some version of “How to know if he’s the one?” Sometimes I googled the question when I wasn’t even dating…


Here are the 5 things I learned

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In early May, when I started to see a lot of posts about writers getting a $500 bonus, I had one thought:

Please do it again next month.

You see, one of my started going viral in early May. I knew that if there was another bonus, I would definitely get it. The $500 bonus is for the top 1,000 writers on the platform.

My wish came true.

In early June, I started seeing posts again about a $500 bonus. I checked my account, and I got the $500 bonus!


#2: Focusing too much on being liked

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It’s embarrassing, but I didn’t really start dating until I was in my 20’s. I only started dating after college.

I grew up in a church-going household so dating was out of the question.

In college, I didn’t really date. No one had money to spend on dates and there were way too many options around for a serious relationship to work.

So, when I started dating after college, I made a lot of mistakes. These mistakes could have kept me from meeting my dream guy. Luckily, I made changes and adjusted before I met my husband.

These dating mistakes…


A powerful love story to inspire you

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Do you believe in ?

That there is someone out there that is meant for you. Maybe a soulmate? And that one day your paths will cross?

When I was single, I didn’t know what I believed. I didn’t know if I had to make it work with someone close to my ideal man or if I would actually find the right person to marry.

Now that I’m married, I definitely believe in romantic destiny. The circumstance in which we met seemed so , it’s hard to believe that it wasn’t orchestrated by a higher power.

Even though I…


Lessons from a Facebook post with 400 comments

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No one wants to be cheated on, but if you’ve experienced cheating before, it might stay in the back of your mind in new relationships.

If you’re looking for your special someone, you want that person to be trustworthy and loyal. You don’t want to be with someone who is always looking for someone better. You want someone who will never cheat on you.

I can’t blame you for being concerned about cheating. According to a 2020 U.S., 20% of married couples are likely to encounter infidelity. …


Sometimes 1 love language isn’t enough

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I had an awesome Mother’s Day.

When I thought about why I felt so fulfilled, I realized that my husband used all 5 love languages on me. He didn’t even spend that much money to do it.

Before I describe what he did, let me remind you about the 5 love languages. They are from Gary Chapman’s New York Times Bestselling . It describes people’s preferences for how they want to receive love.

In the book, Chapman describes how some partners make the mistake of expressing love according to their own preference, and not their partner’s preference.

My husband avoided…


These are the amazing long-term benefits

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I’m so envious of my husband.

Like most of you, he has been teleworking at home since the pandemic began a year ago. I’m not as lucky. My job requires me to be there in person. While I am blessed to have a job, I can’t help wishing I was home with my kids and husband every day.

Even though I would want to switch places with my husband or stay home with him, there have been some enormous benefits of watching the kids by themselves every day.

It is rare for the husband to pick up the childcare duties…


This is how I fake handled it

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When my 6-year-old daughter recently lost her tooth, I had to make a mental note to myself.

Don’t forget to be the tooth fairy.

Last time, my husband and I were lying in bed one morning, when we heard my daughter scream.

“The tooth fairy didn’t come!”

My husband and I looked at each other.

Oops. We forgot.

We were not like the of parents who said the tooth fairy has never forgotten to come to their home on the night a child loses a tooth.

After we forgot, I had to sneak into her room, grab the tooth…


And avoid unnecessary suffering

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We’ve all made bad decisions.

That’s not really the issue. The problem comes in when we don’t fix our bad decisions immediately. We let them fester and build up until they become a gigantic mess. We actually make our mistakes worse. Much worse.

That’s what happens in the cheesecake story in Tim Ferriss’ book, The 4-Hour Workweek. You probably don’t remember the story. When most people think of The 4-Hour Workweek, they think of working a few hours a week and taking exotic trips. …


#7: Confirmed Compatibility

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While dreaming about my future spouse, I always thought that meeting the right person was all I needed to have a good marriage.

However, once my dream guy proposed to me after 8 months of dating, I felt like we needed more preparation for marriage.

Not to mention, many people meet their soulmates and still struggle in their marriage.

One shows that premarital education participation results in higher marital satisfaction levels and lower levels of destructive conflicts. The research also indicates that premarital education resulted in a 31% decrease in divorce odds.

So, to ensure we…

Dee Dee Patterson

Writes about love and self-development. Wife. Working mom of 3. .

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