One sign helps you know for sure

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You’re dating someone special and you want to know if that person is the one.

You enjoy the time you spend with that person and you have a connection with them. You are also worried that many marriages end in divorce. You want to make sure that the person you choose to marry is the right one. You want your marriage to last.

I was once in your shoes. When I was single, I used to google all the time some version of “How to know if he’s the one?” Sometimes I googled the question when I wasn’t even dating…


These are the amazing long-term benefits

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I’m so envious of my husband.

Like most of you, he has been teleworking at home since the pandemic began a year ago. I’m not as lucky. My job requires me to be there in person. While I am blessed to have a job, I can’t help wishing I was home with my kids and husband every day.

Even though I would want to switch places with my husband or stay home with him, there have been some enormous benefits of watching the kids by themselves every day.

It is rare for the husband to pick up the childcare duties…


This is how I fake handled it

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When my 6-year-old daughter recently lost her tooth, I had to make a mental note to myself.

Don’t forget to be the tooth fairy.

Last time, my husband and I were lying in bed one morning, when we heard my daughter scream.

“The tooth fairy didn’t come!”

My husband and I looked at each other.

Oops. We forgot.

We were not like the of parents who said the tooth fairy has never forgotten to come to their home on the night a child loses a tooth.

After we forgot, I had to sneak into her room, grab the tooth…


And avoid unnecessary suffering

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We’ve all made bad decisions.

That’s not really the issue. The problem comes in when we don’t fix our bad decisions immediately. We let them fester and build up until they become a gigantic mess. We actually make our mistakes worse. Much worse.

That’s what happens in the cheesecake story in Tim Ferriss’ book, The 4-Hour Workweek. You probably don’t remember the story. When most people think of The 4-Hour Workweek, they think of working a few hours a week and taking exotic trips. …


#7: Confirmed Compatibility

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While dreaming about my future spouse, I always thought that meeting the right person was all I needed to have a good marriage.

However, once my dream guy proposed to me after 8 months of dating, I felt like we needed more preparation for marriage.

Not to mention, many people meet their soulmates and still struggle in their marriage.

One shows that premarital education participation results in higher marital satisfaction levels and lower levels of destructive conflicts. The research also indicates that premarital education resulted in a 31% decrease in divorce odds.

So, to ensure we…


Here’s what I learned about disappointment in the process.

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I was so excited when I got a conditional job offer from the FBI. I just had to pass a lie detector test, where they ask you basic questions about your background while being hooked up to a polygraph machine.

I didn’t pass. I was so nervous during the test that the results came back inconclusive. A few weeks later I got a letter in the mail that said the FBI rescinded my job offer.

I was devastated. I hated my job at the time and this position would have been a 58% raise. …


It’s better to take risks

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I used to live by the phrase, A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

It it’s better to be content with what you have than to risk losing everything by seeking more.

It sounds good. However, throughout my life, I realized this phrase is definitely not always true.

Let me illustrate. One day I was driving downtown and a small Toyota Corolla pulled out of a park. I was excited because I spent a long time circling the block looking for a park. …


And transform your relationship

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Strong communication is key in a dream marriage. Yet many relationships have a failure to communicate.

My husband and I didn’t always communicate perfectly in our marriage; but we learned from our mistakes early. We spent most of our 10-year-marriage communicating openly, avoiding angry outbursts, and listening to understand the other person’s perspective.

We just had to eliminate bad communication habits and introduce positive communication habits early in our relationship before things festered. If your relationship has already festered to a bad place, strengthening communication skills with your partner will turn things around.

To help you, here are valuable communication…


#7 The right person is happy with you the way you are

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When I opened my email on the morning of my 10th wedding anniversary, I saw an email from my husband titled, “Happy Anniversary to the love of my life.”

Then I read through the email about what I meant to my husband. I read the email slowly to soak in every word.

One of my favorite lines was, “To be able to come home to you every day makes me feel like the luckiest man in the world.”

I felt loved, cherished, and like I was exactly where I was supposed to be. It was not easy getting to that…


And double your household income

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Money problems can really break a marriage.

Money can be a source of contention or a source of contentment.

My husband and I built our marriage on a solid financial foundation. It has strengthened our dream marriage. Since we’ve been married, we have doubled our household income and I have tripled my own income. We have also avoided having arguments about money.

I wanted to share with you what we did to avoid having money problems in our marriage. …

Dee Dee Patterson

Writes about love and self-development. Wife. Working mom of 3. .

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